Ok… Here’s my story (short version)

So many times I have tried to avoid my past and the choices that I’ve made.  But ya know what?  It is a chapter in my life and although I don’t have to share with anyone what I’ve been through, I can and I can be okay with what I have to say.  

I grew up a military brat to single father.  He was the best dad he could be to me and I never needed anything or even wanted for anything.  I was spoiled, but I was taught to appreciate all that I have.  My dad and mom met in Korea, married, and I was born.  I don’t know the details and haven’t really asked so now readers know just as much as I do about that.  When I was around 7, my mom left my dad.  We have no clue where she is, where she went, or what she is doing.  Neither of us have heard from her since then.  Dad and I moved around every 3-4 years in the U.S.  I met the best friends I’ve ever known being in a military family environment and I have seen some of the best parts of America as well.  I encourage everyone to travel with their children and to show them that there is a world outside of the town or city that you live in.  While it may be nice to go to the same restaurant every Sunday and see the same people grow and change every year, remember that there is so much more out there to experience, you can always come back home.  End. Rant. 

So, fast forwarding to get to the main point of this post, Dad finally retired after 23 total years of service, and we “settled” in Jeffersonville, IN.  This is right over the bridge from Louisville, KY.  I graduated high school and enrolled at Indiana University Southeast.  I moved in with 3 other girlfriends (shout out to Erika, Stacey, & Lo) right by the infamous Bardstown Rd. in Louisville.  

Again, fast forwarding…..  

I met a boy at the age of 19 who wrestled for a nearby college.  After one semester, he dropped out, joined the Marine Corps and left for Parris Island and then to NC.  Guess who came along?  Yep! I did. We were in love.  I mean, madly, insanely, in love.  We married 6 months after we met and then found out we were pregnant a few months later.  Dave was born in March of 2007.  Two days later my husband deployed.  This was the most surreal moment of my life.  I was 20 years old, newly married, husband left and I had to get to know a human that I made in my body all by myself.  

During this deployment, my life changed drastically.  I was independent.  I was young. I was basically a single mother.  I made mistakes.  I will leave that at that.

I was forgiven, but nothing was the same.  Husband came home from deployment and it felt right, but we didn’t know each other at all.  I had no clue who he was and he didn’t know who I was.  WE drifted further and further apart.  Time passed and we started seeing other people.  Both of us. I would get mad at him for it and he would be mad at me.  We Were Young. Period.  Some people can do this early and make it work and that’s great.  However, he and I found each other for the sole purpose to make David.  

Fast forward….. again…..

We divorced and I met Mike.  (pause…deep breath) This is where I changed most in my life. 

He was perfect to David, I couldn’t ask for a better step-father to him.  We got along great.  We loved each other.  We loved God.  We lived life together.  

He had a surgery and had his kidney removed, I will elaborate on this a lot more later when the time is right.  Long story short, he became addicted to pain pills and it basically ruined our lives together. We were married in 2009 and separated in 2011….  gave him another chance in 2012 and he left again in 2013.  Ok, there’s a lot more that goes with that but that’s the gist.  Life was crazy and I never wish any of that on anyone and I will never go through that again in my life. I pray that I am never even confronted with a  situation like that again.  

So, I have been married twice.  Yes. TWO TIMES.  Crazy.  I’m 28.  I should be newly engaged or happily married on my first marriage.  It took me a long time to understand that this was my life and I had to deal with it.  I tried for so long to hang on tight to my second marriage because it was my second marriage!  Of course, that never works so here I am.  

I am here, but I am the happiest I have ever been.  Real happiness.  I am ready for the next chapter in my life.  I am ready to travel and to just be me.  This past year, yes, Ive dated, I’ve had feelings that I thought could lead to something, but I realized that I have to be in love with me. And that’s where I’m at now.  I am okay being single.  I am okay being a single momma.  I am okay with my past.  I am making a brighter future.  

If anyone else has gone through something like this (again, I know my details weren’t really on point, because there is SO MUCH more) let me know what you did to get through.  How has it changed your life for the better?  

Smile 🙂

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